Opinion I’m rethinking how I choose to give to those in need

Contributing columnist|
December 29, 2023 at 2:46 p.m. EST
Ellen Weinstein for The Washington Post
6 min

As usual (for me and for many Americans), I’m making some final charitable donations at the end of the year. But this year, one memory haunts me.

I was standing on a subway platform, waiting for a rush-hour train sometime last winter when a man started making his way through the crowd. He was maybe in his 30s, White, heavyset, unshowered. He went up to each commuter in turn and said, “I’m hungry.” Like a child would say it to a mom, urgent and whiny at the edges. “I’m hungry.” Begging — asking for food or money — but also begging. Pleading.