Q: I have an 8-year-old son who tends to have strong opinions and to be a perfectionist. It’s a tad genetic. My husband and I also have strong opinions and want things the way we want them. My son wants to be good at something immediately and I worry that will prevent him from trying or sticking with something new. When he learns something new, like tennis, he gets easily frustrated that he’s not good at it and it’s only the second time he’s picked up a racket. He tends to be hard on himself, too, saying his shot was horrible. He is not very good at losing anything — a card game, a casual game of basketball, whatever. I have tried saying “Let’s practice losing. I’ll go first.” I have tried winning sometimes and losing sometimes. When he wins he is very happy. When I win at a game, he usually comes up with a reason that what I did doesn’t count so he actually won. Any advice or suggestions? I’m not sure whether this is two separate things or all wrapped together.