Living with memory loss, working to fend off dementia

A mild cognitive impairment diagnosis is scary, but recognizing it early is essential to slowing its progression, experts say

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Updated March 4, 2024 at 3:20 p.m. EST|Published March 3, 2024 at 7:00 a.m. EST
Jonel Dershem, left, poses for a photo with her son Bryce at their home in Voorhees, N.J., on Feb. 24. (Rachel Wisniewski for The Washington Post)
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Jonel Dershem first noticed problems with her memory in 2016 after her breast cancer surgery. She was only 50 and at first blamed the lapses on chemotherapy, and then on her busy, stressful life.

So did her husband and friends — and doctor.

“I kept blowing it off,” said Dershem, an obstetrician from Voorhees, N.J., whose challenges began with little things like leaving a faucet running and progressed to trouble finishing routine tasks. “I was our family’s primary breadwinner. I didn’t want there to be any serious problems.”